Ellen Bower
Ceremonies
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Wedding Traditions - Old, New, Borrowed, Blue
Wednesday, Jun 15 2016, 13:14Cultural traditions --- They are fascinating and provide such wonderful insights into history and how customs have evolved.
There are so many cultural traditions involved with organising a wedding and some of them we follow because they suggest 'good luck' while others just seem to have become part of a standard wedding plan.
So, as it's prime wedding season at the moment, here's a treat to some of the more interesting wedding traditions and how they came to influence us still, so many years later.
Did You Know ...
The term 'Tying the Knot' came to symbolise marriage with the ancient Celts. They tied the hands of a couple together in the form of an 'endless knot' or better known as the 'eternity knot'. This involved tying the hands in a way that symbolised the binds that held them together, forever. Even today, in many cultures around the world - including Celtic, Hindu and Egyptian - the bride and groom's hands are literally tied together to symbolise their commitment and their bond to each other. This tradition is also linked to hand-fasting, where today, couples use different coloured cords or ribbons to symbolise their commitment.
Today, hand-fasting is growing in popularity as a way to symbolise the bond and commitment between couples, and it can be a very colourful way to add character and meaning to a ceremony, through the careful selection of coloured ribbons or cords, and sometimes adding charms that hold special significance.
Proposing and Asking for the
Bride's Hand in Marriage originated with
the Romans who called this tradition 'the
joining of hands'.
Bride's Hand in Marriage originated with
the Romans who called this tradition 'the
joining of hands'.
During this ancient time in
history, the groom
gave a coin to the bride's father to establish his
purchase
of the bride. The father then handed
over his daughter to her future
husband. It was
during medieval times
when a knight would
pledge his love on his knee as a sign of service to his
lady.
Something old, something new,
something borrowed,
something blue, and a silver sixpence in her shoe is a tradition
rooted in that old familiar Victorian rhyme. 'Something old'
suggests the bride's connection to her family and to the past that
she brings to the marriage; 'something new' is hopeful of her good
fortune as a wife; 'something borrowed' represents the bride's
closeness to her family and friends who, it is hoped, will support
her in times of trouble; 'something blue' is a way of highlighting
her purity; and 'a silver sixpence in her shoe' points to the wishes
offered for happiness and the hope that the couple will avoid
financial hardship.
something blue, and a silver sixpence in her shoe is a tradition
rooted in that old familiar Victorian rhyme. 'Something old'
suggests the bride's connection to her family and to the past that
she brings to the marriage; 'something new' is hopeful of her good
fortune as a wife; 'something borrowed' represents the bride's
closeness to her family and friends who, it is hoped, will support
her in times of trouble; 'something blue' is a way of highlighting
her purity; and 'a silver sixpence in her shoe' points to the wishes
offered for happiness and the hope that the couple will avoid
financial hardship.
The Bride's Veil has a variety of
histories. One belief suggests it was an
ancient Roman custom of using a veil to
confuse evil spirits and keep them away
from the bride. Less honourable tales
suggest that a veil was used to keep the
groom from refusing to marry a woman he
found to be unattractive. And another suggests that during the age
where war and bride kidnapping were abundant, putting a sack
over the bride's head was a tactic to whisk her away from the
groom.
We have certainly come a long way in modifying the tradition of a
veil in the more modern, beautiful headdresses that some bride's
choose. The kidnapping theory is also linked to the groom carrying
his wife into their new home, while other custom suggests that it
would be bad luck if the bride tripped and fell upon entering her
new abode, especially as they believed that evil spirits lurked along
the bottom of rooms. Today, bridal veils aren't always used,
though they are still rooted in tradition.
The Wedding March is a traditional pieceof music that was created by the composer,
Felix Mendelssohn, and this music was used
in William Shakespeare’s play A Midsummer
Night’s Dream. It wasn't just intended as a
piece of fantasy, but of royalty as well. The
Wedding March was selected by Princess
Victoria, daughter of Queen Victoria of
England, when she wed Prince Frederick William of Prussia, and
thus the tradition became more and more popular over time.
Wedding Rings and wearing them on the left
hand is believed to originate from different customs; the ancient
Roman's believed that there is a special vein that run from the ring
finger on the left hand directly to the heart, and they coined the
phrase 'vein of love'. The second custom seems to come from
Medieval Europe where it was common practice for the priest to
touch the first three fingers of the bride's left hand to symbolise the
Holy Trinity. The never-ending circle shape of the ring symbolises
the eternal love between the bride and groom, which were
presented to wives-to-be during the time of the Ancient Egyptians
as ringlets made of hemp.
Growing in popularity is the 'Warming of the Rings' at the start of a
Wedding Ceremony. Rings are tied to a cushion or placed in a
special pouch and passed from guest to guest throughout the
ceremony. Guests are asked to hold the rings for a few moments
and put their heartfelt thoughts, hopes, prayers, blessings etc. into
the rings for the couple. This is a really lovely way to involve
guests in the 'ring exchange' portion of a ceremony.
The Best Man is literally translated into 'the best man to protect the bride'. Once upon a time,
grooms-to-be approached the most capable man
they knew to ward off potential unhappy
ex-suitors of the bride, as well as to protect the
groom in those moments when things might get
a bit nasty.
In more modern times, the best man's primary concern
is keeping the wedding rings safe and presenting them during the
ceremony.
The Bridesmaids had a role, onceupon a time, quite different to day's
custom. In the time when brawling for
the bride was the thing to do, kidnapping
her was not uncommon (thus the need
for a glorified bodyguard in the Best
Man). While matching bridesmaids
dresses have become less common in
today's weddings, in Roman times when this was a sign of good
luck because people believed that those evil spirits would attend
the wedding in an attempt to curse the bride and groom.
Bridesmaids were required to dress exactly like the bride in
order to confuse the spirits and bring luck to the marriage.
I remember realising this when I saw my grandmother's wedding
photo from the early 1920's - she and her bridesmaid wore the
same dress and for someone unfamiliar with the bride and
groom, it was hard to distinguish who was the bride and who
was the bridesmaid!
The Kiss! The kiss was, at one time, considered a legally
binding act that fulfilled the contract between the bride and
groom. It was thought that through the kiss, the couple
'exchanged souls' with each other.
The Bouquet, and tossing customseems to gain its roots from ancient times when
wedding ceremonies were believed to be evil
spirit magnets. In ancient Greek and Roman
traditions, brides wore flowers in their hair to
discourage the evil spirits (unexpected guests)
from settling on the bride. As far back as the
14th century, securing a piece of the bridal
gown was intended to bring good luck. Of course, bride's didn't
take well to guests cutting pieces of fabric from their wedding
dress, so, as an alternative, bride's began to give away personal
items, such as the wedding bouquet. Contents of bouquets are
equally rooted in rich cultural and historical traditions. Some
cultures sew small pockets of herbs into wedding clothing, or
drape flower garlands over the couple's shoulder's for good
fortune. In other beliefs, herbs are added to welcome ancestors
and spirits. The Victorians were fascinated by the meanings of
different flowers and what they represent in the lives of the
wedding couple. And in Tudor England brides carried
marigolds dipped in rosewater, and ate them afterwards as they
were thought to be an aphrodisiac! In the Middle East the bitter
herb 'artemisia' is added into bridal bouquets to ensure that
marriages will survive bitterness as well as sweetness. Today's
brides often include their favourite flowers for their colour and
perfume. I have been privileged to see some absolutely exquisite
bouquets made from family heirloom jewellery.
The tradition of a Honeymoon continues today.
According to Babylonian tradition, the father-in-law gave the
groom mead to be consumed during the “honey month.”
Some beliefs suggest that this length of time also served as a
“cooling period” for the bride’s family, who might not have
been so eager to see their daughter leave home.
There are so many culturally-rich traditions in families around
the globe, so when you're planning your wedding, consider
where some of the traditions you'll incorporate into your
ceremony may have originated. Some are quite outdated by
today's standards, while others still hold some charm and
meaning.
The true beauty of creating a celebrant-led wedding ceremony is
that there are absolutely no limitations or restrictions on how
you design your wedding ceremony, what you want to be said
during your ceremony or how you symbolically mark such a
significant event in your life. Because a celebrant-led wedding
ceremony is not a legal event in the UK (legal procedures are
still organised by your local registry office), your imagination
and creativity are all you need to plan the perfect occasion!
With a Celebrant, you can create your own traditions allowing
for considerably more flexibility and freedom in how you wish
'your story' to be told!
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Creating Life's Ceremonies
Wednesday, Feb 10 2016, 13:58“When you start doubting yourself,
remember how far you have come.
Remember everything that you have faced,
all the battles you have won,
and all the fears you have overcome.”
– Unknown
Along with the evolution of our culture, comes the evolution of how ... and
when ... we celebrate. And whether or not it is considered 'appropriate' to
celebrate.
Every day I hear phrases spoken that suggest to me that someone has
reached a time in their lives where celebration is very
appropriate. So many milestones reached, achievements met, life
improvements accomplished go without acknowledgement.
"It was such a life-changing
moment."
"This is the most cherished
time of my life."
"I couldn't have achieved this
without their help."
"I needed a way to say
'good-bye'."
"My life is changing so much;
nothing feels the same."
"My life goals are different
now;
but how do I start reaching them?"
"Who would have thought we'd be
together this long?"
In our 'modern' culture, we tend to think that time-honoured
celebrations are the only occasions when we should celebrate - events such as
birthdays, weddings, anniversaries seem to be the only occasions worthy of
a 'fuss'. Yet, there cultures around the globe that may seem less sophisticated
in some ways to our 'western' perceptions (though they are often more
spiritual and wiser) where celebrations happen for many reasons that are not
obvious achievements --- often related to the quality of how people live
their values and learn life lessons.
Many years ago I read about a tribe in Australia that had made the
decision to soon end its existence by no longer procreating - not uncommon
amongst indigenous people who believe their time on earth has completed. The
chief of that tribe explained that they do not celebrate annual birthdays,
which they saw as insignificant and couldn't understand why we, in the West,
celebrate simply getting older, something that we have absolutely no control
over in any way. Instead they celebrated a person in the tribe whenever
they had 'grown spiritually' or 'achieved a special awareness/knowledge', or
'improved a negative behaviour'. The quote at the top of this blog
post reminds me of that philosophy ... that when we celebrate our
lessons and growth in life, we remember them and we remain inspired to keep
going on the right path. Simple. Lovely. Worthy of a fuss.
Births, Marriages and Deaths are such significant events in any family
or culture. With the sense of community more of an exception rather than
the norm in many western cultures today, ceremony and celebration become even
more essential in marking history.
For me, creating ritual, celebrating 'getting better' at life, and
telling our life stories has grown to become one of the most essential acts we
can contribute to the future. Our individual chapters of life may not be
preserved in the same pristine chambers as major historical documents, but they
are equally as essential to the future, because once our individual stories die
out with no evidence left behind --- that is when we are forgotten. And that is
when those who come after us miss the gift of our place in time.
I sometimes wonder if many of us believe that anything we celebrate must
be done so with, and through, tradition. Actually, we are completely free to
create any ritual or celebration that brings meaning to us. We are free to create
any celebration that empowers us to journey through life's experiences ... that
speaks to our hearts not through a religion or a custom or through the
expectation of our friends and families.
Too many times I have had people tell me that they wish they had
celebrated a particular life achievement in a meaningful way, but that they
thought their friends or family might think it was silly or ridiculous to do so
(translate that as 'it isn't how WE do things'). What a shame to be
governed so acutely by the limited courage of others.
More often than not when people learn I am a Celebrant, I am taken aside
and quietly asked if I might help them create a ceremony for what they perceive
to be 'unusual' reasons ... a ceremony to
celebrate their remission from a life-threatening illness, an end-of-life ceremony for their elderly or
dying pet, a ceremony to honour a finished relationship or a divorce, a
ceremony to help them manifest one of their hopes in life, a ceremony to
officially acknowledge their growing children (where a baptism or baby
naming did not meet their needs), a ceremony to welcome their adopted children
to their family, a ceremony to mark their teenage child's rite of passage,
a ceremony to mark successful freedom from an addiction ...
Celebration is simply the
intention to honour our life experiences. It is an act of acknowledging our
commitment to another person.
It is permission to grieve the illness or the death of a loved one.
It is honouring the time when we pass through a particularly challenging
or arduous life experience, and come out the other side better, wiser.
Celebration is simply recognising the wonderful rite of passage when a
young person moves into puberty or acknowledging our gratitude for the birth of
a child.
It is creating a safe platform for acknowledging the need for
forgiveness in a relationship that is or was.
It is the release of harboured resentment or anger, fear or low
confidence that is no longer wanted.
Celebration is welcoming a new era in life, a new decade of
wisdom. It is honouring how a particular life experience served us, but is
no longer needed, so it must be released.
Celebration is simply giving 'wings' to our life stories, so they can
serve us when necessary, and so we can let them go, when no longer needed.
Ceremony is the catalyst to unite people, to bring people
together for a common celebration, a celebration that most often inspires the
right change at the right time. Ceremony is that simple structure, that
beautiful 'order' that brings a sense of fulfilment, a taste of knowing
that an important passage has been reached and must be honoured before you move
on in life.
There are no 'wrong ways' to create Celebration and Ceremony. But there
is a 'right way' - and that is what is dictated by your heart and your
intuition. Your mind is welcome to come along for the celebration, but it is
your heart that is the guest of honour.
However you refer to it - ritual,
commemoration, rite, formality, dedication, communion, initiation,
blessing, consecration ... it is my hope that you give
yourself permission to celebrate the complexities and the beautiful
outcomes of life's experiences.
Celebrating Arrivals!
Monday, Jan 18 2016, 06:45
One gets only a day or two in an entire lifetime
as incredible as the day we first saw your face.
Nancy McGuire Roche
I well remember how much I loved this quote. It was in June 2006 and my husband and I were making our final plans to fly to China to meet our new daughter who was waiting in an Orphanage in Hunan - just 10 1/2 months old. In the form of a website, I kept an online journal for her, and about our travels in China.
Today, nearly 10 years later, it seems surreal reflecting back on that journal, reading our sentiments as we waited to become parents, reliving that incredibly wonderful moment we met her for the first time. There really aren't the words to describe that. We watched in amazement over the next week with her as she transformed from a rather weak, very undernourished, nearly immobile 10 month old baby, into a beautiful, robust blossom of a baby - strong, happy, eager, thoroughly excited about this new world that had opened up to her. The change in her in just one week was phenomenal - proof about how just a little bit of nurturing and nourishment can heal even the most dire of situations.
At the time, I felt instantly as protective of her
as I felt proud that we were so blessed to have this child as our daughter. So
honoured to be living the miracle of becoming her parents. I was balancing the
knowledge that we needed to bond with her, and how much she needed to attach to
us - the first consistent adults in her life. And even though I knew that
was the very best thing to do at the time ... my deepest desire was
to take her out to Pride Rock, just as Rafiki did after the birth
of lion cub Simba (The Lion King), and raise her to the world
and shout "Look! This incredibly beautiful child and this amazing soul is
our daughter and she is here as a precious gift to all of us, adding
deeper meaning to our existence and our world!" But I didn't. We were sensible because we wanted to follow the advice of experts and spend at least the first six months just 'being a family' while we all developed that bond that we all had missed during those first, critical 10 months of her life. Celebrating our daughter's arrival would have to wait for a while.
So, why am I writing about such personal insight into our family?
Because celebration is at the heart of what I do. Celebration is what I bring to this world. Celebration is what I hold the greatest passion for and it is the ritual that is often missing from our culture, especially when a child comes into the world. Baby Naming. Adoption Welcomes. Rites of Passage - there are so many reasons, and so many ways to celebrate the presence of children in our lives.
We devoted those first six months quietly as a family, bonding and attaching with our daughter, and providing her with the space and the safety to bond and attach with us. And then it was drawing closer to the time when we felt ready to introduce her to our world.
So, nearly a year after our daughter came home, we designed and organised a Naming Ceremony for her, and invited everyone who would cross paths with her in some way. I wanted other people in our daughter's life to experience their own worlds becoming more beautiful because she was now in their lives as well.
We asked our friend, Pauline, who is an Interfaith Minister, to preside over the 'blessing' and the formal 'naming' of our daughter. She is named 'Annaliesa Grace Xiaohong' and her name is deeply meainingful. We wanted her to have a family name, so 'Annaliesa' is a blend of my grandmother's name and her sister's name - two of the women I most admired and loved in life. 'Xiaohong' is her Chinese name.
We designed the ceremony around one of my favourite books called 'The Twelve Gifts of Birth' by Charlene Costanzo. (I highly recommend the book; in fact I give this as a gift to a baby/young child at every opportunity - birthdays, naming ceremonies, baptisms, adoption welcomes ... )
It tells the long ago story, in faraway kingdoms, when wise women travelled swiftly to the castle whenever a new prince or princess was born. Each wise woman (faerie godmother) presented a noble gift to the baby. The wise women understood that the 'twelve royal gifts of birth' belong to every child, born anywhere, at anytime. Unfortunately, the custom of the land prohibited the women from proclaiming the gifts to all children. But the wise women gathered one day and made the prophecy that some day all children of the world will learn the truth about their noble inheritance and when that happened, a miracle would unfold on the kingdom of earth.
We wanted our daughter to know the secrets of the wise women, and the story continues to say that when a child is born, as they take their first breath, a great celebration is held in the heavens and twelve magnificent gifts are granted to them. Those gifts include:
The gifts of ...
Strength ... Beauty ... Courage ...
Compassion ... Hope ... Joy ... Talent ...
Imagination ... Reverence ... Wisdom ... Love ... Faith
(In fact, I made colourful boards with each of these words being displayed all across the top of her bedroom walls. Even at age 10, she loves those words decorating her room. We have had so many lovely chats about what those words mean to her and to us as a family.)
Using this book as the background for our ceremony, we made promises to our daughter to love her without smothering her independence. To shelter her without stifling her spirit. To give to her generously without expectation. To encourage her to explore this world, hand over hand, pushing limits far beyond the security of her room, her home, her garden. We promised that we would inspire her to jump feet first into life as though it were a huge puddle; we knew that she would delight in the joys and the messes of the splash!
We know that there will be people in her life who may tell her “Be Cautious, Don’t Trust, Stay Safe” … those who might make her doubt the strength she feels in her own legs. There are those who may try to silence her, who might stand in the way when she expresses her spirit. There are those who may challenge her values because of their own limitations, and perhaps try to impose a sense of wrong onto her.
But this 'theme' to her 'Welcome and Naming Ceremony' encourages her to remember her twelve gifts of birth, especially her gift of courage and the sense of wonder that she will hold in her heart.
Participating in such a meaningful 'Welcome and Naming Ceremony' symbolised our hope that she would never feel that she has to compromise herself. That the world is an awe-inspiring place if she allows it to be so. And that it is our deepest hope, as her parents, that she will always fly with the freedom of joy and adventure. Most important, we wanted the day to symbolise that she is always surrounded by love - in that moment, in this moment, in every moment during the rest of her life.
The celebration continued by honouring grandparents, acknowledging the role of Godparents, marking the significance of our daughter's full name (telling the stories behind our choices), and presenting our daughter with the gift of some 'life gifts' in the form of little charms in a silver box:
A tiny silver key - the gift of Empowerment
A tiny silver flower - the gift of Inspiration
A little clover - the gift of Luck
A little silver angel - the gift of Protection
A tiny silver heart - the gift of Love and Friendship
We continued the ceremony with a blessing for my husband and myself, as her parents, and an expression of our hopes for her and her future.
And we concluded with a blessing for my daughter's birth parents, declaring our immense gratitude to them for choosing to give our daughter life so that she could be united with her forever family.
We scattered poems, music, readings and a few stories throughout the ceremony, but this is the heart of how we chose to honour our daughter, and to raise her to our world with pride and deep gratitude.
This is just one way that a child can be welcomed into a family - this was our chosen way. I invite you to contact me if you are considering something similar, or even if you aren't sure what you'd like to do, but you know that you somehow want to acknowledge your child's presence in your family. It would be an absolute honour to chat with you about that - a conversation that is completely complimentary!
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Inspiration for a Vibrant New Beginning
Sunday, Jan 3 2016, 10:14
As I write this, the new year 2016 is already purring away much like a very curious kitten eager to delve into life wondering behind which corner does the next surprise in life lurk, waiting to be found. I do love this time of year when our journey in life ventures onto a new path as the calendar year clicks onto a blank canvas, and a new chapter begins in our story of life.
I am always inspired when New Year's Eve comes around, not because of the celebrations that fill the streets but rather because I enjoy a quiet welcome to the new year, with my family, anticipating what may await us in the days, weeks, months ahead.
This year, my husband, my daughter and I have made a 2016
paper bunting where we will each write what we are thankful for in our lives, what we
hold with gratitude in our hearts, and what we personally wish to focus on for
ourselves, helping to dictate how our year will unfold for us, individually and
as a family. But mostly, this bunting is meant as a reminder of the abundant ways we are blessed to feel thankful. In the week ahead, we will write our special sentiments and the bunting, when finished, will be draped on the wall overlooking
our table, so we can reflect on what is meaningful to each other every time we
sit as a family. Since 1990, I have been creating an annual Vision Board, generally in January as that always feels like such a fresh, new place to begin. (I've called these many names over the years, such as Treasure Map, Guiding Board, Vision Map and so on.) It has been the most cathartic process for me as each new year has taken it's turn with the promise of another 12 months.
Some of my annual Vision Boards have been collections
of images and words on posters of various sizes stretching from small A6 (4" x 6") cards to giant posters, always
with a particular focus on that one, two or three things that are calling to me
that need my attention. 
But I have been creative over the years, and my
Vision Boards haven't always been poster collages. I've created several 'exploding boxes', filled with all of my hopes and dreams
for the coming year. 
Others have been expanding cards, with my intentions unfolding in concertina style. One year I made a woven pattern, some thin lengths of colourfully patterned paper
representing something that I was grateful for, with other strips representing the
areas I wanted to focus on in the coming year - it was fun to weave them together and see how they blended perfectly. 
I have created banners, bunting,
3D hanging paper stars and hearts, a collaged bracelet, a life wand, small journaling books, artistic pages --- there are so many ways I have put my anticipated dreams to life, visually. Perhaps one of these days I will write more detail about the process here. For now in this year of 2016, I want to have a particular word or phrase to focus on. I am still, as I write this, 'listening' to what that will be. So many words have rushed into my head and heart and it has been quite the arduous task to find that 'one word' that is most significant for me this year. But I am getting closer.
In the past I have had so many wishes on my Vision Boards and I have, over time, learned that 'less really is more' when it comes to focussing on how we want to nurture and inspire our lives. This in itself is a healthy challenge for the Piscean Idealist that I am; clutter and surrounding myself with 'stuff', both literally and figuratively, comes all to easy to me so this year I am simply focussing on a 'root' word. Perhaps my word will be something related to the idea of 'releasing' what I no longer need (on many levels in life) in order to make room to create what is waiting to join me in my life. Yes, 'releasing' is feeling like it has good potential this year.
I am incredibly blessed in my life, so it feels rather awkward to admit that I am also feeling a bit like I am 'nearly drowning' in all of the talents, skills, passions, and blessings that have graced my path over the decades. It is a very nice 'problem' to have, to feel as though I have so much to offer yet still unclear as to how it can all come together to be spent wisely. And while my life certainly hasn't been without it's dire challenges and life-changing experiences, there has been abundant reason for me to live thankfully and I know that focussing on gratitude means welcoming peace.
So that is why concentrating on one primary behaviour that will influence all aspects of my life is so important to me now. One Little Word to keep me focussed so that I can continue to fully serve others with my work and the talents I have been blessed to possess, rather than feeling overwhelmed and holding back more of what I am meant to share.
When I sit in my own quietness every 31st December, I have a recurring vision of how the stillness of the earth, which seems to be asleep at this time, is actually quite joyfully and eventfully busy with activity beneath the obvious surface of earth --- the activity of seeds germinating, bugs nesting, soil rejuvenating --- all in preparation for their 'rebirth' and explosion up through the earth in just a few months time.
In many parts of the Northern Hemisphere, we can be forgiven for looking at the surface of the ground and assuming all of nature has died. Most trees are without their glorious coat of many coloured leaves. The hedges are standing rigid in obedient rows of dried wood, motionless in the wind. The gorgeous, plentiful flowers that filled the countryside just a few months ago are now nowhere to be seen. The birds that defy migration linger, scouring the earth for the rare morsel of nourishment on the cold winter ground.
All seems quiet. There is a great sense of emptiness about. The 'life' seems to have dimmed in nature.
But for me, this onset of a new year is a most revered and, for many, a most spiritual season and it is a time when we must hold fast to our belief and our trust that what appears to be the 'sleepiness' of winter is, in fact, a necessary illusion ... a sort of magic trick performed flawlessly by nature, masking the 'birth' that is yet to come, of nature, of people, of animals. And when nature wakes up, she will be hungry and eager to get on with the miracle of 'rebirth', just as she has done every Spring since the beginning of time.
And that is much how it is with our own life. It ebbs and flows. There are times of vibrancy and lots of action - times when all just seems to 'fit and flow'. And there are times of dormancy and inward reflection - times when we question our intentions, impatient for the answers that have not yet revealed themselves.
So, these early days of 2016 mark a new beginning. It's a whole calendar year of celebrations ahead, some that we pass through every year such as birthdays, anniversaries and certain holidays. And there are celebrations that are so special , so unique that they happen perhaps only once --- and they are meant to be meticulously planned, thoughtfully shared and gratefully experienced with joy and love and often even with hope.
And this is why I cherish my vocation as a Celebrant - because Life's milestones need to be commemorated in special ways, not limited to standard, impersonal restrictions or worse, lost in the oversight that a busy world imposes. Life's milestones need to marked as memorable, amazing, distinctive, meaningful. (Visit me at ellenbowerceremonies.com)
So, bring something fresh and purposeful into your life this year.
What will capture your focus? What is calling for your attention? What is ready to come into your life with such eagerness that only your permission prevents its entry?
I wish you a thoroughly vibrant, happy and meaningful onset to this brand new year, this blank canvas ahead in 2016. May unexpected miracles fill your every day.
With gratitude,
